UP AND AT THEM!!!
So, I decided to create a blog. After breaking up with Maya my mind has been reeling with what to do with myself. I honestly thought we would never break up and after 3 1/2 years I can't believe we have. I thought I had found the perfect woman and now contemplate what went wrong.... in reality I don't think anything went wrong.
So, what I like about Maya.
1. I thought she was hot, damn hot.
2. She fucking gamed!!!. It is hard enough to find a woman who excepts roleplaying games much less one who actually played games.
3. She was an intellect. I could talk to her about things and we would be on the same level.
So, what I hated about Maya.
1. Religion. I don't think I can ever deal with someone who is religous on a major level again. This started off as a small thing but escalated to her number one thing. It didn't help that I think that relgion (any religion) causes more harm than good and is the result of stupid decisions.
2. She was mean. Mean people suck. I mostly ignored this and she constantly appologized for it but it sucked anyway.
What changed about Maya?
1. Religion. Already mentioned in the above but need reiteration due to probably being the number 1 or 2 cause for us breaking up. What started off as a hobby became her life.
2. Goals. Maya constantly said I didn't have any goals but I certainly felt more focused than she did. When we first met she wanted to be a high school teacher (something I had considered doing and respected beyond most professions) but after moving to San Diego she found out it would be difficult getting a job in her field. She gave up and decided she wanted to be a costume designer for Hollywood :o
Why did we split up?
Just so there is no confusion on this she broke up with me, I didn't not brake up with her. If it was up to me we would be together because I feel more comfortable with one woman than trying to "play the field." I knew our relationship had problems and wanted to work them out, she didn't.
1. Money. The number cause of divorce happened to be the number one cause for us splitting up. I met her after I graduated from college. From that point I wasn't able to find decent steady work. Actually, right now is about the closest thing I ever had. In Las Cruces, NM she payed for most things as she was given a lot of money from her family. In San Diego she managed to get a decent paying job in a month. I managed to get a poorly paying job in two months. I was fired in December and been in and out of work up till about two months ago.
2. She changed. Her interest in religion increased, interest in gaming decreased, and her goals shifted to stardom she was no longer the same woman I met. However, I was willing to accept the new Maya but the new Maya was not able to accept me.
Well, first post was a big one. Very theraputic and I'm sure I have a lot more to say on the subject. Maybe I'll go watch "Swingers" now as John Favreaur's character and I have too much in common.

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